mkdir ~/usr/local
cd <path_to_ncurses>
tar xzvf <ncurses>.tar.gz # change the tar command if it is not a tar.gz
cd <ncurses>
./configure --prefix=$HOME/usr/local
make
make install
cd <path_to_vim>
LDFLAGS=-L$HOME/usr/local/lib ./configure # then add any options e.g. --prefix=$HOME/usr/local
make
make install